Sunday, March 14, 2010
10 Tips for Public Speaking
This is a very important part because without knowing your material, you are mostly
2.Practice. Practice. Practice!
You must practice your speech every time, so that you will able to give a smooth speech without any mistakes. As you know, practice makes perfect.
3.Know the audience.
By knowing the audiences, you will know what standard of language you should use. For example, if you are giving a speech to a group of lecturer, you must use a high standard of english.
4.Know the room.
Before you give a speech, make sure you know where is the microphone and the tools for visual aids so that you don't have to waste time hunting for it during the speech.
5.Relax.
During the speech, just relax and take your time. There is no need for a rush if there is no time limit.
6.Visualize yourself giving your speech.
Before giving the speech, you should try to visualize your own speech in front of the audiences to gain confidences.
7.Realize that people want you to succeed.
You should keep in mind that your audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative and entertaining in your speech.
8.Don’t apologize
If you have done something wrong, try not to apologize to the audience because they might not notice it.
9.Concentrate on the message – not the medium.
Focus only on your message and audience and nothing else.
10.Gain experience.
The more public speaking you practice in life, you will slowly gain experience and confidence for your next speech.
In conclusion, every one of us will face public speaking in life whether it is in our workplace or studyplace.Therefore, we cannot run away from it.
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Gestures
hey say a picture paints a thousand words – and the same can certainly be said for gestures. We all subconsciously give away hints as to our true feelings, through our movements and gestures. This is a list of 25 examples of body language.
Gestures 1 – 5
Gesture: Brisk, erect walk
Meaning: Confidence
Gesture: Standing with hands on hips
Meaning: Readiness, aggression
Gesture: Sitting with legs crossed, foot kicking slightly
Meaning: Boredom
Gesture: Sitting, legs apart
Meaning: Open, relaxed
Gesture: Arms crossed on chest
Meaning: Defensiveness
Gestures 6 – 10
Gesture: Walking with hands in pockets, shoulders hunched
Meaning: Dejection
Gesture: Hand to cheek
Meaning: Evaluation, thinking
Gesture: Touching, slightly rubbing nose
Meaning: Rejection, doubt, lying
Gesture: Rubbing the eye
Meaning: Doubt, disbelief
Gesture: Hands clasped behind back
Meaning: Anger, frustration, apprehension
Gestures 11 – 15
Gesture: Locked ankles
Meaning: Apprehension
Gesture: Head resting in hand, eyes downcast
Meaning: Boredom
Gesture: Rubbing hands
Meaning: Anticipation
Gesture: Sitting with hands clasped behind head, legs crossed
Meaning: Confidence, superiority
Gesture: Open palm
Meaning: Sincerity, openness, innocence
Gestures 16 – 20
Gesture: Pinching bridge of nose, eyes closed
Meaning: Negative evaluation
Gesture: Tapping or drumming fingers
Meaning: Impatience
Gesture: Steepling fingers
Meaning: Authoritative
Gesture: Patting/fondling hair
Meaning: Lack of self-confidence; insecurity
Gesture: Quickly tilted head
Meaning: Interest
Gestures 21 – 25
Gesture: Stroking chin
Meaning: Trying to make a decision
Gesture: Looking down, face turned away
Meaning: Disbelief
Gesture: Biting nails
Meaning: Insecurity, nervousness
Gesture: Pulling or tugging at ear
Meaning: Indecision
Gesture: Prolonged tilted head
Meaning: Boredom
10 Ways to Communicate With Your Pets
Start noticing what your pet is paying attention to. What interests them and what's their reaction.
Start noticing your pet's facial expressions when you are talking to them. Relate that to what you've learned about reading other's faces to see what they are saying in their expressions. (Remember, babies can get their wants and desires across to their mothers and fathers with out crying out.) It's the beginning of communication.
Quiet your mind center yourself or learn how to meditate. It will quiet "the committee" in your head that try to check and recheck and triple check then categorizes the information that goes in and out of your thought process all day long. It will help you to detach from the, so called, logic override in your speech so you can speak to and for the animals.
Gently reach out and ask a simple question in your head. Is this question your issue or the pets? Be simple with it. Don't expect a complicated lengthy answer.
Allow the FIRST thing that comes into your mind to be verbalized by you. Then see what your pets reaction is. You might be surprised at their facial or vocal answer.
Don't think about, "Is this real?", "It can't be that!" Just try and
observe your pets answer, facial, body, and vocal. Be detached from the outcome.Try the new information out. See if it's a viable answer or if your pet has a sense of humor. Sometimes they will try and interject some humor when we take ourselves too seriously. Be light with it. Animals often feel humans are too serious with questions.
Now, have some play with your pet and lighten up. Practice talking to your pet about everything, like you would your friend or child. Love them. You can sing made up songs about them. Have fun!! Include their input in your household decisions. Keep it easy so then will feel free to come to you if something big is up for them.
Allow them their independence. No one likes to feel that their thoughts are constantly listened to, or that someone is trying to intrude into their space.
- Practice and be easy with the questions and your intuition. No straining or you'll miss the meaning. Remember they "talk" to each other all the time without vocalizing. It's us, humans, that think we have to make noise to talk, not the animals.
Thursday, March 11, 2010
The deadliest conversation sins
The Hijacker motive is to expect you to listen to them. They like to top your story and belittle it, while allowing little time for discussion or reaction to it. Usually it will create an unbalanced conversation between the Hijacker and the victim.
2. Eye Contact Issues
When someone is talking to you, we must have eye contact with that person whether it is interesting or not. It is because a good eye contact has a certain rhythm to it.
3. Ghost Listening
This is equivalent to a speaker talking to the wall just like falling on deaf ears. It is very impolite when someone speaks to you and you did not pay attention.
4. Making Tasteless Jokes
Sometimes we can joke with one another in a conversation but we must have our limit.
5. Me, Me, Me
In this conversation, the speaker only talks about his own life whereas he forgets to ask about the listener's life.
6. My Name is Negativity
For example, "I don't want to wash the dishes today because I am tired". Nobody likes to listen to a negative person.
7. Dead End Answering
It is by replying the speaker with "yes" or "no" just like being grilled by policemen. Therefore, in order to avoid this, we should say more.
In conclusion, we should avoid these bad conversation habits.
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Sunday, February 28, 2010
Evolution of Communication
Ardipithecus anamensis, which is one of the earliest human ancestors, 4.5 million years ago, and Australopithecus afarensis, 3.5 million years ago had brains that were much too small to support speech. Homo Habilis (2.5-1.8 million years ago) had a more advanced frontal lobe which is where speech is controlled from but its larynx was not positioned low enough to allow it to produce the range of sounds recognisable as speech.
It was, in fact, only about 300,000 years ago that human ancestors developed the larynx, pharynx, hyoid and skull base that rendered them physically capable of speech.




